How To Become Socially Confident

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A Group of People having a Discussion



Every day, as I pursue different objectives, I realize more and more that technical competence is not enough. Whatever goals you and I set, we are going to need PEOPLE–at every level of the economic spectrum–to bring them to fruition.

Perfecting your people skills by becoming what I call “trans-social” is the unwritten rule that will catapult you into the next level in every occupation or endeavor. I remember being told point blank by a certain Fortune 500 executive that I had been advanced over another more experienced employee simply because he was “not as sophisticated”. It sounds unfair, but the reality is that such perceptions are advancing or thwarting personal dreams in companies, churches, and common relationships every day.


You may have pooh-poohed social etiquette and professional decorum in the past, but trust me, as the world becomes more competitive, you are going to need this underrated advantage. I’ve written a crash-course book on becoming socially confident entitled 'Socially Confident in 60 Seconds: Practical Tips for Navigating Any Situation.' It is not an exhaustive treatment of the subject of etiquette but rather a discussion of the essentials that you must master if you want to go to the next level of your occupation–or to succeed at a new occupation or endeavor.

Here are a few essentials that I cover in the book: Do you know the guidelines for making personal introductions? Whose name do you say first when you introduce your boss, pastor, mother, or other? When do you offer your business card at networking events? What do you do with your napkin if you have to leave the table during a meal? What do you say when someone asks you how much money you make? Listen, friend, this book is hot and you need it. You will be smart to order it and read a generous number of value-added excerpts at: http://amzn.to/1U69cSg . Be sure to share this link with someone you want to help expand their borders. We all know that people judge your intellect most often by how you speak.

Deborah Smith Pegues


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