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As we draw the curtain on 2017, I've taken time to reflect on this year, vis-a-vis my successes (gains) and failures (mistakes). This has led to me to think through what hs been my motivation through the months. Words they say, never fade away. They last a lifetime. Even the Holy Bible says heaven and earth will pass away but God's word will remain the same. Against this backdrop, I'll like to share a few quotes that have kept me going and focused as well as helped overcome certain obstacles I've had to face. These few positive and motivational quotes have been my inspiration and have guided as well as guarded my thoughts over the years. Sharing they say is caring. Here are a few life quotes that would be helpful to you in 2018; *The true measure of a man's character is what you do when you think you would never be found out. *You are most likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.  *A life in which anything goes will ultimately be a l...

​The fact  that someone is part of your history  doesn't  necessarily imply that they must be part of your destiny. Know when to draw the  curtain. Whether you realize it or not, people who refuse to grow with you simply can't go with you. So often we get so caught up in our emotions that we seem to think that just because someone has been by our side for years that we are entitled to take them with us to each proceeding level of our lives. At some point in your life you must realize that everyone can’t go with you to the next level and here’s why: Some People Are Seasonal Tyler Perry put it best in his hit movie Madea Goes To Jail: Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or wind blows in your life they are gone. You...

​Your network is indeed your net worth. Building genuine and productive relationships that prove mutually beneficial is one of the most crucial things you can do to position yourself for growth and success. While you should never force connections or relationships, your network should always be organically and consistently growing. Building a strong, reliable network can be a game-changer when it comes to progressing through your life and career. It is important to invest in people and relationships that are as diverse as your interests, curiosity and the opportunities you wish to attract. Fostering an authentic network can change your life, so never be afraid to fine-tune it as you see fit. If you are unsure as to whether there is a missing link in your network puzzle, here are three signs that it might be time for expansion. 1. You see the same people. Everywhere you go –– socially or professionally –– you never encounter fresh faces or make new intro...

Although it may be hard to believe when we are in the midst of struggle, our deepest pain is the catalyst for our transformation. Yet, healing and growth are not possible if the door is still open to those people and experiences that chip away at your peace. Are you still allowing people and things that hurt you into your life? Truthfully, we cannot rebuke a devil that we continually grant access to our lives. You know that you don’t want to live in drama, for example, yet pick up the phone when that friend calls. He promised he would never put you down again, yet you’ve turned the other cheek so much your head is spinning.Protection of ourselves, and our core, is critical. Psychologists have found that slipping into patterns of self-sabotage happens all too easily.  In fact, whether it’s sticking to a health plan, quitting smoking, or removing ourselves from a toxic relationship, 80-90% of us will slide back to what feels familiar. Yet, researchers have found ...

A Group of People having a Discussion Every day, as I pursue different objectives, I realize more and more that technical competence is not enough. Whatever goals you and I set, we are going to need PEOPLE–at every level of the economic spectrum–to bring them to fruition. Perfecting your people skills by becoming what I call “trans-social” is the unwritten rule that will catapult you into the next level in every occupation or endeavor. I remember being told point blank by a certain Fortune 500 executive that I had been advanced over another more experienced employee simply because he was “not as sophisticated”. It sounds unfair, but the reality is that such perceptions are advancing or thwarting personal dreams in companies, churches, and common relationships every day. You may have pooh-poohed social etiquette and professional decorum in the past, but trust me, as the world becomes more competitive, you are going to need this underrated advantage....

Many folks find it hard to irrigate their relationships. They always want to be around the same kind of people. Sometimes, when people find themselves in a place where they are regarded as the best or they exercise some form of control, they don't want to leave, always wanting to be around the same set of people. Its a simple problem of comfort zone. People  sometimes tend to get too comfortable in a particular place and it becomes a problem as time goes on because it invaribaly means they are not really improving. The fact that you are a doctor doesnt mean you should only hang around doctors. The fact that you are a millionaire doesnt mean you should only hang with millionaires or people less wealthy. One problem most people face is that they feel more  comfortable hanging around people who share a similar problem with them. A single lady will tend to feel more comfortable hanging around single ladies and not married women because she feels she may fall short, when it comes ...

Every living person is a vibrant embodiment of a designed purpose and destiny — a walking, breathing, speaking organism that has been set on a path to fulfill a specific goal during its existence. Though we all might have different purposes and destinies, there is something every destiny-driven person shares with another — a pulse! Of course, your pulse signifies the thumping of your heart. However, it does far more than that. Your pulse signifies that your entire body is being fed everything it needs to survive and thrive. There are several places throughout your body that allow you to feel the pulse of your heart. What you feel when you place your fingers against your jugular vein should be the same thing you feel when your fingers are placed against your wrist. Both areas on your body should have the same rhythm and energy because the pulse — the beating of the heart — sustains everything God has assembled in yo...

Being nice is not enough sometimes. It is not enough for you to just be a nice person or a good person . You may wonder what I mean by this statement but its the fact. Sometimes we come across people who are so calm and nice but they have one major flaw that makes their nice character look useless. It is not enough for you to be in a relationship with anyone just because the person is nice. Outside being nice, there are certain responsibilities we all have and if your partner is not able to meet up with those things, then you have a major problem. It's funny though when you ask some folks why they are dating whoever they are dating and their response is "he's such a nice person" or "she's such a nice person". Now let me state this clearly being nice in reality would not sustain a relationship. I realise a good attitude is a very important factor in the sustainance  of a relationship, however it is the only factor. How would you cope with a nice person ...

   Whether you realize it or not, people who refuse to grow with you simply can't go with you. So often we get so caught up in our emotions that we seem to think that just because someone has been by our side for years that we are entitled to take them with us to each proceeding level of our lives. At some point in your life you must realize that everyone can’t go with you to the next level and here’s why: Some People Are Seasonal Tyler Perry put it best in his hit movie Madea Goes To Jail: Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are. Some People Will Only Remember You From Your Past “Remember when…” we all have tho...

Human behavior is a fascinating and frustrating thing. Learning about ourselves is useful to identify troubling behavior that can stand in the way of fulfillment, but identifying internal issues doesn’t always prepare us for recognizing them in others. Life would be easier if people walked around wearing warning signs for us to heed, but there’s no chance of seeing “Hazard Ahead” or “Dead End” around the necks of others. Since the warning signs of danger aren’t always literal, it’s important to learn how to identify toxic behavior in others. 1. Judgment is their native language. The old adage goes that if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all, but toxic individuals never seem to take that advice to heart. They usually have no kind words to say about anyone and are perpetrators of gossip, negative opinions, and general discouragement. Although mean natured, this alone doesn’t mean they’re toxic...

It has been said that if you judge people, you have no time to love them. Let’s put ourselves in another’s shoes before uttering even one word to critique, to harm or to judge. Judgement courts disconnection and separation while empathy welcomes love.  How often have we felt judged or misunderstood? Every one of us walks through life carrying on as best we can; we tell ourselves that the world does not stop for our pain or problems. Every day, in hundreds of ways, each of us put on our own protective masks in order to manage life.   We bury our fears, hurt and disappointments and should not forget that others do the same.  Those that judge us cannot know the depth of what is kept inside, and those whom we question may need the gift of our own compassion and grace. As we seek to understand another’s motivations and concerns we make room in our own lives for growth; our living example of empathy promotes more peaceful relationships and interactio...

Do not allow people's opinion of you to stop you from pursuing your dreams

Funny but true...

Good Morning! You have to know when you cant allow other people’s opinions to stop you from going after what God has for you. It can be a hard walk with God when are you confused, however, what a gift it is that He welcomes you with open arms to guide your path as you walk along with Him (Psalm 119:105)! You have to be discerning with whom you share your God-given plans and dreams with! Everyone in your circle is not in your corner! Do not give those people the power to speak doubt, fear and unbelief into your life (Proverbs 12:18). Hold steadfast to that which you know God has ordained for your life. Feed your spirit with the things you know He says about you! You were bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:20)! You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)! You can do all things through Him (Philippians 4:13)! Words are such a powerful tool! Remove yourself from the company of anyone whose words do not edify and encourage you to pursue God’s best in your life. Stay ...

“A flexible person is a happy person,” my husband said, mimicking the expression I always use to adjust my attitude when my precious plans go awry. This was his way is letting me know that something had just gone wrong but that he was putting forth an effort to “go with the flow”. While I haven’t “arrived,” I have made great strides in overcoming a rigid attitude. I used to put my plans in cement, and woe unto anybody who changed them. I would mostly likely strike their name off my list for any future interaction. No more! I’ve decided to make every effort to become a flexible person. In fact, I renew my commitment each time I see someone experiencing great frustration simply because he refuses to be flexible. Ray is a typical example. His job as a city maintenance worker requires him to share a truck with Jack. Jack tends to get extremely hot and requires the windows in the vehicle to remain down—even when it’s quite chill...

Frustration is a sign of investment. It usually comes from when we don't get to see what we had in mind. Moses, when he was frustrated by the Israelites made a mistake of speaking to the people instead of speaking to the rock (which symbolises Jesus). God had commanded Moses to speak to the rock to bring out water but because Moses got frustrated with the constant murmuring of the people, he spoke to them and hit the rock. You don't get frustrated with things you havent invested in. Wherever there is investment, there's frustration because investment creates expectation. Expectation creates the potential for disappointment because would not always expectations be met. For years I struggled with relating with people and making friends because I expected so much from people but I learnt to lower my expectations because I was disappointed a number of times. Consequently, disappointment unresolved leads to frustration. Frustration is when disappointment sinks in. Frustration...

Whether you realize it or not, people who refuse to grow with you simply can't go with you. So often we get so caught up in our emotions that we seem to think that just because someone has been by our side for years that we are entitled to take them with us to each proceeding level of our lives. At some point in your life you must realize that everyone can’t go with you to the next level and here’s why: Some People Are Seasonal Tyler Perry put it best in his hit movie Madea Goes To Jail: Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are. Some People Will Only Remember You From Your Past “Remember when…” we all have those friends who alwa...