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Disappointments, hurt , fear, shame, and guilt are all things we go through, once in a while (some more frequently than others) and we sometimes allow these things to weigh on us. What’s more is that in those dark moments, we become silent, and secretly let those thoughts and emotions eat away at us. We feel as though we can’t open up to anybody, because maybe we feel ashamed; maybe we fear feeling misunderstood; or maybe we feel like we don’t want to burden others with our problems. Indeed, making errors is a normal, if unwanted, part of life. Every one of us has moments we are not proud of – moments when anger, jealousy or our insecurities get in the way of our living in the light. Yet, we are called on to realize that the darkness cannot and will not overshadow our good. Studies have found that people who think they can learn from their mistakes bounced back quickly after an error. It may feel like it is too late, or too much has passed, but never doubt that...

We’ve all been asked the question: What are your strengths? If it catches you off guard, then it's time to take personal inventory. Your strengths are the foundation of your success. It's important to know which qualities make you stand out. Not only is being aware of your strengths positive for an employer, it also works in your favor. The more hours per day adults believe they use their strengths, reports Gallup, the more likely they are to note having ample energy, feeling well-rested, being happy, smiling or laughing a lot, learning something interesting and being treated with respect. In short, utilizing our strenghts make just about everything better. If you're unsure how to start unlocking your strengths, follow these four tips. 1. What Makes You You? Think about your personal and professional experiences. How have you dealt with high-pressure situations? You’re bound to think of at least three strengths. Not only will you be able to articulate your strengths, y...

Smart Goals: Tricks On How To Appear Smarter Than You Are The word 'smart' has arguably become the most common word to be associated with intelligience. I mean that's partly why we have the usage of the term 'smart' phones. Thus, this further foregrounds the importance of appearing smart. Futhermore, the nature of interviews seem to have changed so much in the world today that its not really always the most brilliant person in the room that gets the job. In fact, it has been said that the American Billionaire Jeff Bezos is usually more concerned about how candidates answer behavioural questions, as opposed to how they answer technical questions. It goes without saying that some people are smarter than others. This can be as a result of several complex factors like environment, genetics, temperament etc. However, that doesn't mean anyone can't appear to look more intelligent than they actually may be. Success in business requires 80% people skills and 20...

Towards the end of 2017, I put up a post on  life quotes that will help you to succeed in 2018  and I believe a lot of people found it very useful. Words they say, are powerful. We all need to hear inspiring words that would propel us further from time to time. Everyday, I see, read and hear about a lot of people who gave up because of they were depressed and had no one to talk to. That's one of the reasons why I wrote a post on handing rejection. Your encouraging and motivational words can go a long way in helping people out of their depression. So, against this backdrop, I've come with a second part of this inspiring post. These few positive and motivational quotes are sure to leave you inspired.  *If you can't figure out your purpose, figure out your passion, 'cos your passion is most likely gonna lead you to your purpose. *Every opportunity is an investment in your capacity. *The true measure of friendship isn't how you feel about someonelse, it is how t...

"Thank you for applying for this job but......" A lot of job seekers would be very familiar with this line, I guess. You know these days, you really do not need to open an email before you know whether or not your interview/test was successful. Once you check the preview and it starts with a line like that, most often than not, the news is always a negative one. This kind of situation has led many folks to the point of feeling rejected, which most times snowballs into depression. The fear of being rejected has made so many people lose vital opportunities.  Truthfully, if you live long enough, you would get rejected at some point in your life. So, you have to accept the fact that not everyone would accept you for who you are or what you want. The feeling of rejection could come from different channels. It could come from your workplace, family or even friends. Some people who are divorced today walked out of their marriages simply because they felt rejected by their spouse. ...

As we draw the curtain on 2017, I've taken time to reflect on this year, vis-a-vis my successes (gains) and failures (mistakes). This has led to me to think through what hs been my motivation through the months. Words they say, never fade away. They last a lifetime. Even the Holy Bible says heaven and earth will pass away but God's word will remain the same. Against this backdrop, I'll like to share a few quotes that have kept me going and focused as well as helped overcome certain obstacles I've had to face. These few positive and motivational quotes have been my inspiration and have guided as well as guarded my thoughts over the years. Sharing they say is caring. Here are a few life quotes that would be helpful to you in 2018; *The true measure of a man's character is what you do when you think you would never be found out. *You are most likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.  *A life in which anything goes will ultimately be a l...

​“Be kind, everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” This insight is universal because it reminds us that the people in our lives are dealing with their own hardships; that they have their own pain to process.Even with a sage reminder like this, why is it that we only see our own distress when in the middle of hard times? Why do we feel that we have a monopoly on pain? We first must understand why we become more self-centered in times of anxiety. A recent study found that troubled feelings increase our reliance on egocentric thinking--meaning that we stop seeing other’s perspectives while distressed. We become more self-centered when experiencing unhappy circumstances and this causes us to only see our own agonies because of our agitated, single-focused minds. Our selfishness is bound to be apparent to others as well. One study has shown that patients who used more first-person pronouns (I and me) during therapy sessions had a higher incidence of depression while...

​Burden. Overload. Stress. Do these words describe the way you feel about life? If that’s the case, I want you to know you’re not alone. And with God’s help, you can change your outlook and overcome your situation. No matter what’s going on around you, you can have a life in Christ filled with peace and joy. 1. Say something positive. If you constantly feel overwhelmed or under stress and you can’t pinpoint the exact reason, start making some Biblical daily confessions. Rather than getting up each day, talking about how bad things are, begin each day declaring God’s Word and His promises over your life. I am more than a conqueror! (Romans 8:37) God will provide for my every need! (Matthew 6:26) I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me! (Philippians 4:13) 2. Fine-tune your budget. If your finances are a source of constant stress in your life, decide to start a budget (or reevaluate your current budget). What is something practical you can do to solve the probl...

“ Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.” says T.D Jakes. Although it may be hard to believe when we are in the midst of struggle, our deepest pain is the catalyst for our transformation.Yet, healing and growth are not possible if the door is still open to those people and experiences that chip away at your peace. Are you still allowing people and things that hurt you into your life? Truthfully, we cannot rebuke a devil that we continually grant access to our lives. You know that you don’t want to live in drama, for example, yet pick up the phone when that friend calls. He promised he would never put you down again, yet you’ve turned the other cheek so much your head is spinning. Protection of ourselves, and our core, is critical. Psychologists have found that slipping into patterns of self-sabotage happens all too easily.  In fact, whether it’s sticking to a health plan, quitting smoking, or removing ourselves from a toxic relations...

Complaining is dangerous . It can damage or even destroy your relationship with God, your relationships with other people, and even with your relationship with yourself.  It’s easy to complain. We likely don’t realize how much we do it. I believe it’s one of the most challenging things to overcome.Philippians 2:14 says, Do all things without grumbling and faultfinding and complaining…. That’s a pretty clear command. And not something anyone can do in their own way ; Like I said before, it’s easy to complain. There are many things that happen every day that we could murmur about. But they really aren’t worth the effort it takes to get upset and gripe about it. For example, we travel a lot and stay in a lot of hotels. I like to take a hot bath to relax before speaking at our conferences. Once when I went to fix my bath, I discovered there was no hot water. So I called the front desk to see about getting hot , but they weren’t able to fix the problem when I needed them to. And l...

​According to World Report, over 70% of people land jobs through networking. Networking is key to advancing your career or business. When done correctly, it can result in a new position, contract or worthwhile business deal. On the other hand, when done ineffectively, though, it can lead to wasted time or –– far worse –– a bad first impression. At the core of good networking is effective relationship building, which means fostering meaningful conversations and focusing on the person to whom you are speaking. In turn, you’ll have the opportunity to share who you are and, in the process, uncover potential opportunities. Take your networking to the next level by avoiding these common mistakes people make when attempting to build their networks. 1. Don't Wait To Be Approached Avoid playing shy. You might not usually approach strangers, but networking events provide the perfect cover for you to initiate a conversation. Start by asking open-ended questi...

Life as we know it is not a bed of roses. We must constantly encourage ourselves and push for greatness. Sometimes, we get to some points where we feel like we can't go further than this, but if there's one thing you should know, it is 'While you're still  breathing, never ever  give up'. Let these quotes from T.D Jakes further  inspire you to be a better version of yourself. 1. “Don’t stop at where you are as if it were the destination, when in fact, in reality, it may be the transportation that brings you into that thing you were created to do.” Our current circumstances should never limit us from reaching our true potential. We must turn our struggles into the vehicles that spur our transformation. 2. "Everything you’ve gone through is preparation for what’s about to happen in your life. The LORD has already given you a word, MOVE!" When we "move," we bring about the growth we desire. Tragedy hasn’t stopped you, heartbreak didn’t...

​Your network is indeed your net worth. Building genuine and productive relationships that prove mutually beneficial is one of the most crucial things you can do to position yourself for growth and success. While you should never force connections or relationships, your network should always be organically and consistently growing. Building a strong, reliable network can be a game-changer when it comes to progressing through your life and career. It is important to invest in people and relationships that are as diverse as your interests, curiosity and the opportunities you wish to attract. Fostering an authentic network can change your life, so never be afraid to fine-tune it as you see fit. If you are unsure as to whether there is a missing link in your network puzzle, here are three signs that it might be time for expansion. 1. You see the same people. Everywhere you go –– socially or professionally –– you never encounter fresh faces or make new intro...

Believe in yourself

There are times that you shouldn’t be persistent. For instance, when that guy or girl clearly doesn’t like you and has told you no two or three times when you ask them out, then it’s time to give up and move on. If you are too persistent in that case, you could get slapped with a restraining order! But, in most cases, persistence is something that can pay off for you in your career, health, relationships, and happiness. Before you go off committing to everything in your life, you need to know a few things about being persistent that will help you make the most out of your determination. 1. Negative Emotions Can Arise Unless You Are Laid Back Highly persistent people tend to have better health and happiness overall, but research published in the Journal of Affective Disorders shows that they can also have more negative emotions and anxiety than people who are not highly persistent, especially if they are not laid back and tolerant of failure, difficulty, or setbacks. ...

Keep this in mind.....Deep!!!!

Although it may be hard to believe when we are in the midst of struggle, our deepest pain is the catalyst for our transformation. Yet, healing and growth are not possible if the door is still open to those people and experiences that chip away at your peace. Are you still allowing people and things that hurt you into your life? Truthfully, we cannot rebuke a devil that we continually grant access to our lives. You know that you don’t want to live in drama, for example, yet pick up the phone when that friend calls. He promised he would never put you down again, yet you’ve turned the other cheek so much your head is spinning.Protection of ourselves, and our core, is critical. Psychologists have found that slipping into patterns of self-sabotage happens all too easily.  In fact, whether it’s sticking to a health plan, quitting smoking, or removing ourselves from a toxic relationship, 80-90% of us will slide back to what feels familiar. Yet, researchers have found ...

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” –Maya Angelou