Moving on

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Sometimes moving on can be a very painful exercise, especially when we find ourselves emotionally hooked to the person that hurt us, albeit involuntarily. We sometimes find ourselves wanting someone who we don't really need. Love is a  very complex phenomenon and may most likely not make sense most of the time.

There are several reasons why many folks find it very hard to move on. However, one major reason why people find it hard to move on is because they think the person who hurt them won. When you feel like the other person won, it makes it very hard for you to let go because no one likes to lose. The thought of being a loser alone fuels more anger in you and makes you more bitter towards the person. It also makes it tougher for you to forgive the person.

You have to understand that love is not a game and should not be treated as such. In every game, two opposing sides play against each other and they both aim at winning. This is not the case with love. When two people are in love, they are supposed to be on the same side and not on opposing sides. However, this doesn't take away the fact that it is painful to see someone you love, leave you.

One question that bothers so many people is how to truly let go. Well, I must let you know this, that there really is no way to let go completely but first of all you must accept the mistakes you've made. Focus more on the good things about the other person as well as the good times you both had together. Reliving the good times and things from past relationship, helps to reduce the pain of the hurt and it also helps you understand that it was not a complete waste of time. After having accessed the situation, if you think its not possible for you guys to come back together, work towards accepting this fact. Also, do not think that you may not get someone better. Open up your heart and believe that you would get someone better. Avoid the distraction of always trying to keep yourself updated with whatever the other person is up to.

Moving on can sometimes be a herculean task and frustration sets in when you think you are not letting go as fast as you want to. You have to understand that letting go of someone who you truly loved takes time. It could take years. Go through with the process. It may not be what you had in mind but the important factor is progress not perfection.

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