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Good Morning! What God has for you, is for you! (Jeremiah 29:11) Have you felt you were positioned in the right place to see God’s blessings flow in your life, yet nothing seemed to be happening? The oil will not flow if its not meant for you! Do not consume yourself with the favor and blessings you see happening in the lives of others, your oil will flow in due time (Habakkuk 2:3). Everything that you are experiencing, both good and evil is working together for your good (Romans 8:28). Be encouraged and of good cheer (John 16:33), and continue to praise God while you wait for the oil to begin to flow in your life. While you are yet praising God, He is creating space for you to be a solution to somebody’s problem! Your strength is in your praise! Your faith will sustain you while He is preparing the oil to flow upon your head (Hebrews 11:1) You’re coming in to a season of multiplication - get ready for the overflow! Watch the rebroadcast of @BishopJakes #WhenEvilWorksForGod at tdjak

What are you telling yourself?

Often times, love enters our lives without us searching for it. It might even surprise you to find affection for someone else stirring in your heart. When you grow in a relationship, you might even be eager to jump into marriage before knowing all you should about yourself and being in love. There are three questions you should ask yourself to uncover if you are truly in love. 1. Does the person you love make you want to be a better version of yourself? A partnership should make both people stronger. With that in mind, if you are in love, you will scrutinize the kind of person you are. It’s natural to want to show your partner the best version of yourself. You might try to be more patient, more open, more giving. That evolution of your better self, happens when you are in love. 2. When you think of the future, are they in it? When life is going well, planning for the future can be fun. It’s even better when you are doing it with someone you want to share that time with. Are you mak

Think Positively

I'm a big believer in forgiveness, and not just because I make a lot of mistakes. But because it's good for you and for your relationship if you're able to work things out and move past them. But there are some things you can't let slide in a relationship . Ever. When you let certain things slide, it sends silent messages about the behavior you're willing to accept and the ways people are allowed to treat you. Letting bad behaviors slide isn't a way to be nice, or kind, or forgiving. It means you're not setting boundaries. It means you're taking crap from others for the sake of keeping the peace. It can also mean bigger things, like a lack of self-esteem, or poor communication skills, which are important to address as well. Of course, letting things slide in abuse situations may not be your choice. I saw it all the time as a Domestic Violence Victim Advocate and Planned Parenthood Certified Responsible Sexuality Educator. You can't always have a sa

In the words of love experts Dr. Charles and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz "The simple truth is, the best marriages engage in a lot of touching, and sex is only one form of touching." 1. Squeeze his bum. 2. Kiss his cheek. 3. Put your arm around her. 4. Hold his hand. 5. Play footsies. 6. Rub his leg. 7. Touch her elbow. 8. Run your fingers through his hair. 9. Rub her back. 10. Give him a bear hug and don't let go. 11. Run your fingers over her cheek. 12. Kiss his neck. 13. Put your arm around her waist. 14. Hug him from behind and put your cheek next to his. 15. Kiss her on the lips. Gently. 16. Rub his arm. 17. Touch your forehead to hers. 18. Rest your head on his shoulder. 19. Dance with her. 20. Whisper in his ear. 21. Sit close together. 22. Spoon together in bed. 23. Give him a scalp massage. 24. Hold her face in your hands and stare in her eyes. 25. Squeeze his hand. Both men & women crave affection and want to feel valued. The accumulation

Do something good

Good Morning! God is not cutting you because of your past, He is cutting you because He sees your future! He has a very distinct and unique plan for your life - the circumcision is preparing you for that season (Jeremiah 29:11). To go where God is taking you, you have to leave something in order to get something! Circumcision is a sign of the covenant; It is a place of Consecration, Dedication, & Separation. You have to remain consistent during this time and allow God to circumcise you! It is all working together for your good (Romans 8:28). Do not cling to what is familiar, allow God to cut away what makes you vulnerable and allow Him to renew your mind (Romans 12:2). You are an heir to the promise made Abraham - He is preparing you to receive your inheritance (Genesis 3)! - Activate your faith (Matthew 17:20) and let patience have her work in you (James 1:4). All that you are enduring is the Never Land that precedes the Promised Land!

The fact that someone is part of your history doesn't necessarily mean they must be part of your destiny

Muhammad Ali will always be remembered for being the greatest champ to step into the boxing ring, but he was also a very enlightened and informed man. One of the many personal insights he shared during his lifetime addressed the worth of friendships. He said, “Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.” His words reflect an importance that lies in our friendships that’s immense, unfathomable, and can only be understood by being a part of one. Our friendships pick us up, carry us further, and come from some of the most unlikely sources . In order to get the most out of our friendships, there are certain types of friends we should have in our lives to round out our social circles. 1. The Caretaker. We all need a little help now and again and a friend who proudly plays the role of caretaker will never leave you wanting for more s

Anytime someone mentions their name your heart feels heavy. How did things ever get this way?  Did you ever think you would go this long without talking to your best friend? Has it really been ten years since you last talked to your dad? While you should never apologize to someone as a matter of habit or convenience, when you realize that you’ve genuinely made a mistake it’s time to reach out. Being the first to offer an apology shows that you value the relationship above your ego. Pick up the phone, send that email and remember these four reasons it’s OK to be the first to apologize: 1. You realize you were wrong. Researchers found that there are two main types of regret: regret for actions and regret for inactions. Those studied felt sorry for their actions such as speaking about someone behind their back.  Regret for inaction occurred when the person didn’t take a step they knew they should have--like not being there for a friend when they were really needed. When you hurt som

Stop the blame game!!

Nobody has 20-20 vision on how their behavior affects others— and nobody enjoys hearing about their weaknesses or shortcomings. Thus, it can be a painful experience when others give us feedback—whether it is designed to help or hurt. Depending on our  level of confidence or insecurity, we may interpret any mention of our need to improve as a confirmation or proof of our worst fears—that we are lacking something.  However, if we are going to walk in the confidence it takes to live our best lives, we must learn how to benefit from such input.  Try these four strategies for responding to not-so-pleasant feedback. 1. Listen .  Do not interrupt the confronter with an explanation or excuse for your behavior. Relax. Let your body language indicate that you are intent on hearing all that the person is saying to you. Avoid smirking, rolling your eyes, or seeming skeptical of what is being said.  Instead, try nodding your head (this simply says “I hear you”, not “I agree”), looking the person

Being nice is not enough sometimes. It is not enough for you to just be a nice person or a good person . You may wonder what I mean by this statement but its the fact. Sometimes we come across people who are so calm and nice but they have one major flaw that makes their nice character look useless. It is not enough for you to be in a relationship with anyone just because the person is nice. Outside being nice, there are certain responsibilities we all have and if your partner is not able to meet up with those things, then you have a major problem. It's funny though when you ask some folks why they are dating whoever they are dating and their response is "he's such a nice person" or "she's such a nice person". Now let me state this clearly being nice in reality would not sustain a relationship. I realise a good attitude is a very important factor in the sustainance  of a relationship, however it is the only factor. How would you cope with a nice person

Good Morning! When your support system walks away, what do you do? You PRAY and move forward! (Isaiah 58:11) You have to connect to people who want to see you advance in life. You will experience betrayal and abandonment sometimes from the ones who you hold closest to the heart. Don’t allow the actions of anyone else take you out of your character - Keep your composure. (Romans 14:16). And in those times when you don’t know what to pray or have the words to say, the Holy Spirit will intercede on your behalf (Romans 8:26)! Remember, Jesus was betrayed, so you are certainly not exempt! (Matthew 26:47-49). Anybody that can walk away from you isn’t tied to your destiny. It is in these seasons that you need to rely on God most, and your direct access to Him is through prayer! (1 Peter 5:7). Prayer Still Works! Don’t give any further attention to those blocking the path you know God has set for you. You have to trust Him when you cant trace Him. (Matthew 6:27) Be encouraged, for God is alw

Not too long ago, it was common practice to stay on one career path until you retired. While there are those who found jobs they loved, others have felt stuck in a job that no longer satisfies them. Often we have multiple skills and talents that need to be expressed, and it can be difficult to pull together disparate interests into one job. But finding an outlet for these varied skills is part of developing our career identity. And as we evolve, our career goals change, and we gain a clearer sense of those jobs that satisfy our deeper sense of purpose. 1. Change Perspective Most of us cannot just pick up and leave our jobs on a whim especially when we have a family to support. But just because you can’t leave your job now doesn’t mean you will never be able to leave your job. It’s important to have a renewed perspective to turn your current work situation from an obstacle into a jumping off point for a new career. If you only see your current job as a hindrance, chances are you wi

Have a blessed dae

Syphilis is a sexually transmitted disease that is caused by the bacterium Treponema pallidum. It is a very common disease that affects both men and women. Symptoms could be mild or severe depending on the stage of the infection. When left untreated, syphilis could lead to serious health complications. Here are some facts about syphilis you should know: There are four different stages of syphilis – primary, secondary, latent and tertiary Signs and symptoms of each stage differs. At initial stage, symptoms are usually unnoticeable and almost usually ignored. As the infection progresses, symptoms become more noticeable and severe It is contracted through having either vaginal, anal or oral sex with someone already infected. Pregnant women can also transmit the disease to their unborn child  which could lead to pre-term delivery, seizures, eye infections and deafness in the newborn. It could also lead to the death of the baby It can also be transmitted through deep, prolonged kissing

Change the headlines over your life

Relationships fail. Jobs fail. Families fail. Marriages fail. Friendships fail. Health fails. In the midst of the hurt and disappointment we endure day in and day out, there is a hope, a security, and a support system in Christ that will never leave us, or forsake us. There is a love from the kingdom of Heaven that NEVER fails. That love is the secure, hopeful, restoring, healing, forgiving, life-transforming love of JESUS CHRIST! This Valentine's Day, meditate and dwell on the beautiful, wonderful love of our Savior! TD JAKES

1. "No woman wants to be in submission to a man who isn't in submission to God!" - 2. "A whole woman will always attract a whole man. When they touch, they will fuse to create a whole marriage. Ultimately, when the time is right, they will produce whole children." - 3. "You need to learn how to love imperfect people," he says. "Because if you succeed at loving imperfect people, then it becomes plausible that somebody could love imperfect you." - 4. "It takes courage to really love someone. Deciding to love gets harder as you get older. It's more and more difficult to fall in love because your 'faller' gets broken. We've all had relationships that didn't work out for one reason or another. The loss of a relationship can be a traumatic experience and can affect us in our lives for months and sometimes for years. You need to understand what role you played in the relationship's demise, and work to come to peace wi

Overtime, we've been inundated with stories of 'and they lived happily ever after'. As far as I'm concerned that statement is nothing but a myth. Truthfully, there are no 'happily ever after' love stories because love can be painful. It requires perseverance to go through the pain of loving someone. People tend to have this image of love being an all rosy affair where you find yourself locked in a perpetual  state of happiness. Thanks to the fairy love tales we grew up listening to. You'll come to find out that love and marriage can turn out to be the most painful things in life. Pain, not in the sense of abusive relationships, but pain in the sense that to love at all means to open up yourself to pain and vulnerability. We all are imperfect beings. A 'so-called' perfect relationship is simply the coming together of two imperfect beings who made a conscious decision to love themselves through it all. Albeit, the pain is supposed to make us stronger.

Choose to love!!!!

Love means a lot of things to a lot of people but have you ever asked yourself what love means to you? How do you show love  and to whom do you show love? We been taught about love languages but its application seems to be limited to romantic love and love shown to someone you know but we were not born to love only those we know, we also have the capacity  to love even those that we don't know.  Practically ,I think the best example of love was shown by God who sent his 'ONLY' son to die for a world of people who cared more or less about him. God didn't specify who Jesus should die for, rather He sent Jesus to die for all and sundry. Even Jesus, with  all the things that men did to him, still decided to let his life down for men, both those he knew and those he didn't know? What greater way to show love than this? A young man once said the true measure of a man's character is how he treats people he doesn't know and not how he treats people he knows. It wi

So often in life we subconsciously delight in the failures of others. I'm sure you're familiar with the quote, "Hurt people, hurt people." If we're being honest, we've all felt a little bigger when someone we don't particularly like doesn't succeed. Competition in the body of Christ is just as present as it is in the world. Choose to LOVE versus winning, because love WINS, every time! TD JAKES

When anger takes root in our lives, everyone and everything suffers as a result. Keeping tabs on the mistakes our loved ones have made, and allowing anger to take root in our lives are two toxic habits that will eliminate love from your life sooner than you think. Forgive your loved ones, and choose KINDNESS everytime. You'll thank me later! TD  JAKES

Happy Valentine's Day

Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or take away love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don't fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the result is more likely to be infatuation, or two illusions dancing together, than love. Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires. Love is inherently free. It cannot

Lately, Adekunle has been confused, angry and frustrated. His wife, Darima has refused to have sex with him for over a month. She had continued to turn down his sexual advances despite the doctor’s confirmation that nothing is wrong with her after examining her physically. Darima has refused to put him into consideration, neglecting his feelings as if they were completely irrelevant. He is so tired of being rejected all the time. Is there anything wrong in desiring to have sex with the woman he loves? Is it wrong for him to desire the emotional connection that comes from having sex with his own wife? Could there be something wrong with him that keeps her from not wanting to have sex with him? Adekunle was beginning to feel unwanted and unappreciated. Although he isn’t a perfect husband, he is doing his best and he also understands her pain. He can vividly remember his last sexual encounter with his wife. It was so difficult penetrating her and when he eventually did, Darima had let ou

Preach about love Maybe it’s not the most original idea you’ve ever heard, but it’s a good one. Valentine’s Day is all about love. Since it’s on the mind, you might as well capitalize on the occasion. You have a lot of preaching material to choose from, though. The whole Bible is a book about love. We’ve listed a couple of notable love stories from the Bible. 1. Adam and Eve (Genesis 2-3) 2. Abraham and Sarah (Genesis 17-18) 3. Jacob and Rachel (Genesis 29) 4. Ruth and Boaz (Ruth 4) 5. The bride and groom (Song of Solomon) 6. Mary and Joseph (Matthew 1) Create a Valentine’s Day mood Scatter flower petals in strategic locations. If you need to do some decorating for a Valentine’s banquet, try tossing some flower petals around for an instant Valentine’s atmosphere. Using real flower petals will automatically help to improve the scent, too (the downside is, they can easily get ground into the carpet). Or, for a few bucks, you can buy several bags of fake flower petals at a craft

How do you think of yourself?

Many folks find it hard to irrigate their relationships. They always want to be around the same kind of people. Sometimes, when people find themselves in a place where they are regarded as the best or they exercise some form of control, they don't want to leave, always wanting to be around the same set of people. Its a simple problem of comfort zone. People  sometimes tend to get too comfortable in a particular place and it becomes a problem as time goes on because it invaribaly means they are not really improving. The fact that you are a doctor doesnt mean you should only hang around doctors. The fact that you are a millionaire doesnt mean you should only hang with millionaires or people less wealthy. One problem most people face is that they feel more  comfortable hanging around people who share a similar problem with them. A single lady will tend to feel more comfortable hanging around single ladies and not married women because she feels she may fall short, when it comes to re

How do you think of yourself?

Thoughts!!!

You could be the most polished or sophisticated person on the planet, however, if people don’t like you, you’ll have fewer and fewer opportunities to interact with them. Some individuals have the kind of personality that brightens up a room while others improve the environment by their departure. Personality is the visible aspect of your character as it impresses others. Without a pleasing personality, achieving your personal and professional goals will be an uphill battle. This is not about changing who you are or becoming a people pleaser. It is about coming to grips with the fact that whatever you desire in life will be achieved through other people. Consequently, you must be mindful of behaviors and character traits that attract people and those that repel them. As you read the following tips for a winning personality, consider areas where you need to shore up your interactions with others. • Smile. Keep it genuine; don’t do it just to show off your new cosmetic veneers or caps

Thoughts!!!

Have you ever thought about God’s wonderful gift of speech? Proverbs 15:23 says A word spoken at the right moment—how good it is! God has given us the ability to bless, encourage, praise, sing and worship with our words. But too often our mouths—and a tiny instrument called the tongue—get us into trouble. If you have an “unbridled” tongue—and I struggled for years in this area—there’s no end to the havoc you can create in your own life and the lives of people around you. But the human tongue can be tamed by no man. It is a restless (undisciplined, irreconcilable) evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse men who were made in God’s likeness! (James 3:8-9). Our words can do severe damage to our relationships, our careers and the world around us. But here’s the good news: With the help of the Holy Spirit, they can also do great good. God can give us the wisdom we need to control our tongues and learn to speak life-giving words that reflect

No matter how much we hammer on it that sex during period is not hygiene so many people still engage in it so why not lecture them on what to know about sex during period and that is what this article is about and not promoting sex during period. Having sex during that time of the month is a personal choice, and there is no reason you cannot enjoy intimacy during that period. However, you always need to take certain precautions even during her menstrual cycle. These tips will help make sex during periods enjoyable and less messy, it will help you be more comfortable with her in bed during her periods. •Place a towel or cloth on the bed: You cannot deny that sex during menstruation is a little too messy. And your white sheets can take a beating if you do not use anything to catch the mess. So it is a good idea to place a dark towel or a bedsheet under her pelvis before you get going. •Clean yourself up after sex: Also, be prepared with a warm wash cloth or wet wipes to clean up right

In the world we live in today, social media has established itself as a global force. Every year, new social media platforms are built, all for the very same purpose of connecting people. The truth is that social media is nebulous. It can serve both as good thing and as a bad thing. It all depends on how it is used. Sadly though, it has become the habit of a few folks to put out their relationship problems on social media. Some folks tend to feel very comfortable letting out their problems on social media. However, it hasn't really turned out well for lots of people. Here are five reasons why you should not do that; *You Will Expose Yourself: Do you know that you could have hidden that problem. Some people do not really have a good grasp of the statement 'a problem shared is a problem half-solved'. They think that they will be better off letting out the truth. Some people actually let out their problems on social media just to present themselves to the world as the Saint

People say that they love themselves all the time. Bookstores’ aisles are flooded with the latest praises for self-love and self-acceptance. Still, the charge to “love yourself” is often dismissed. Maya Angelou once warned, “I do not trust people who do not love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” It’s true that those who do not unequivocally love themselves aren’t fully living.  How can they be of benefit to others when they suffer from a hole in their own hearts? Researchers have found that self-love and self-compassion make for a better quality of life.  Those who authentically love themselves are better able to parent, stay in relationships, protect themselves emotionally and pursue fulfilling careers. Our internal script and belief about ourselves should be supportive, honest and above all kind. Silent, corrosive thoughts such as: “I don’t know if I can handle this” or “I’ve made so

BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M). The terms are lumped together that way because BDSM can be a lot of different things to different people with different preferences. Most of the time, a person’s interests fall into one or two of those categories, rather than all of them. Here are certain facts about BDSM. 1. It doesn’t always involve sex, but it can. Most people think BDSM is always tied to sex, and while it can be for some people, others draw a hard line between the two. “Both are bodily experiences that are very intense and sensual and cause a lot of very strong feelings in people who practice them, but they’re not the same thing,” says Thorn. The metaphor she uses for it: a massage. Sometimes a massage, however sensual it feels, is just a massage. For others, a rubdown pretty much always leads to sex. It’s kind of similar with BDSM; it’s a matter of personal and sexual preference. 2. BDSM enco