Before You Date

Some people are running from themselves. They've never examined themselves and as a result, they've never gotten to know themselves. This creates a 'dating-problem' because you find out that in giving yourself to somebody, not only do you not know who they are, you also do not know who you are but you stand there with your magnificient self promising to stick together 'in good times and in bad times'. The problem most people encouter is that they always think they know themselves, when in reality they do not.

One reason why some people have found themselves
in multiple relationships is because they do not know themselves- what they can do, what they cant do, what they can take, what they cant take- and they do not have an understanding of the kind of person they would want to be with. For some of them, they think good and exciting sex is enough to sustain a relationship. Newsflash baby, the sex will wear out one day and you would be left to deal with the person.

In the coming year, for those who are not in relationship and are planning to start one, it is important that you first know yourself and define what you want in a relationship. Remember the magic is not dating a person, its in dating the RIGHT person.

In the words of T.D JAKES, before you date anyone, date yourself.