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Complaining is dangerous . It can damage or even destroy your relationship with God, your relationships with other people, and even with your relationship with yourself.  It’s easy to complain. We likely don’t realize how much we do it. I believe it’s one of the most challenging things to overcome.Philippians 2:14 says, Do all things without grumbling and faultfinding and complaining…. That’s a pretty clear command. And not something anyone can do in their own way ; Like I said before, it’s easy to complain. There are many things that happen every day that we could murmur about. But they really aren’t worth the effort it takes to get upset and gripe about it. For example, we travel a lot and stay in a lot of hotels. I like to take a hot bath to relax before speaking at our conferences. Once when I went to fix my bath, I discovered there was no hot water. So I called the front desk to see about getting hot , but they weren’t able to fix the problem when I needed them to. And l...

Life as we know it is not a bed of roses. We must constantly encourage ourselves and push for greatness. Sometimes, we get to some points where we feel like we can't go further than this, but if there's one thing you should know, it is 'While you're still  breathing, never ever  give up'. Let these quotes from T.D Jakes further  inspire you to be a better version of yourself. 1. “Don’t stop at where you are as if it were the destination, when in fact, in reality, it may be the transportation that brings you into that thing you were created to do.” Our current circumstances should never limit us from reaching our true potential. We must turn our struggles into the vehicles that spur our transformation. 2. "Everything you’ve gone through is preparation for what’s about to happen in your life. The LORD has already given you a word, MOVE!" When we "move," we bring about the growth we desire. Tragedy hasn’t stopped you, heartbreak didn’t...

The word 'friend' has overtine being used wrongly by people. Some folks find it hard to differentiate between a colleague and a friend. They cal everyone that talks to them friend. Really hilarious! As far as I'm concerned thats just a petty show of ignorance rather than simplicity, as some may call it. T.D Jakes outlined three categories of friends namely comrades (those who against what you are against), constituents (those who are for what you are for) and confidantes (those who are for you). I believe this description and categorisation of friends aptly captures and describes the world of friendship. Apart from those with whom we share a romantic relationship, friends are an alternate set of people that have the capacity to break our hearts, 'cos when you trust someone you ultimately give them the power to hurt. The reason why heartbreaks are so traumatizing is not necessarily what was done itself but by whom it was done. Be mindful of who you give the power of...

Have you ever heard anyone say, “My ultimate dream is to be average .” I haven’t. I don’t know anyone who’s born with a desire to be mediocre or to accomplish nothing in life. If you’re like me, you want to stand out, be special, the best you can be, distinctive. Well, that is also God’s desire for you. He does nothing haphazard, without purpose. It’s all meticulously planned. He determined our looks, personality, heritage, intelligence, and gender. So that means there is something specific He wants you to accomplish as you, with your blend of abilities. It may take awhile to know what it is, to develop into that you, and be totally comfortable with your uniqueness. I’m quite familiar with the journey. The struggle to accept my distinctiveness began early for me. Maybe it’s because I have seven brothers and no sisters. My mother said she went to the hospital each time hoping for a girl. On the seventh try her prayer was answ...

Rumi once said we should look for the answer inside our question. Indeed, the questions we ask ourselves point to the very truths we seek. We ask why we are hurting, yet know the reasons all too well.  We ask why they treat us this way (and how much longer we can take it) yet forget to listen to our own wisdom. We ask which path to follow, yet our intuition keeps pointing towards the light. Still, living with our questions feels like standing on uneven ground; we fear never getting back our footing. But our questions are the roadmap to our truth. Researchers have found that too often we fear asking questions; we stick to a course of action, ignoring our instincts and staying within perceived “safe” parameters.  Yet, asking questions, and making decisions with flexibility and room to change, sets us on course to greater fulfillment and self-agency. Allow yourself to ask why and sit awhile with the unknown.  As uncomfortable as it may seem, there is power ...

Have you ever found yourself mulling over mistakes of the past? Is there a decision you have recently made that you now regret? Are there people you admire who seem to never be “down and out” and always have a smile on their face? Everybody makes mistakes but that doesn’t mean you should be dwelling on them. You can’t be happy while carrying around regret and the key to living your life without regret is to live according to your chosen life path, your destiny. “How do I figure out my life path?” The answer may not be easy to find. You may need to take some time to figure out what you want to do. That is okay! Just remember that the answer comes from within. T.D Jakes points out that we need to take the time to get to know ourselves. God already has a purpose for you but you must remain faithful. Life is about being on a journey. It is not about the destination. It’s about where you are going. T.D Jakes speaks about us not limiting ourselv...

Human behavior is a fascinating and frustrating thing. Learning about ourselves is useful to identify troubling behavior that can stand in the way of fulfillment, but identifying internal issues doesn’t always prepare us for recognizing them in others. Life would be easier if people walked around wearing warning signs for us to heed, but there’s no chance of seeing “Hazard Ahead” or “Dead End” around the necks of others. Since the warning signs of danger aren’t always literal, it’s important to learn how to identify toxic behavior in others. 1. Judgment is their native language. The old adage goes that if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all, but toxic individuals never seem to take that advice to heart. They usually have no kind words to say about anyone and are perpetrators of gossip, negative opinions, and general discouragement. Although mean natured, this alone doesn’t mean they’re toxic...

You are exactly where you need to be. Every step, tumble and break has polished you; your resilience is beyond measure.  Regardless of what people say, or what problems may come, know that you are on the right path. You will fulfill your purpose on this earth--without a doubt. Feeling unanchored or lost is completely normal, temporary and will pass. It is precisely during life’s toughest storms when we cultivate our deepest understanding and knowledge of ourselves and our potential. Pablo Picasso said, “The meaning of life is to find your gift.  The purpose of life is to give it away.” In fact our purpose in life is found when our power and potential align. When we acknowledge, define and celebrate our strengths, we are not only unstoppable, but of great benefit to others. Researchers in the Department of Psychology at Trent University found that people who connected with meaning and purpose in life experienced more physical and emotional well-being....

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The earth’s progression through the four seasons ensures maturation and renewal; the ice caps of winter melt into the streams of spring. Our relationships follow similar cycles. There are some that come into our lives for a lifetime while others only for a season. Surely, those that walk out of our lives are not always bad people – sometimes their part in our story is just over. We may have lost our spouse, partner or best friend simply because no matter how hard we tried to make it work, our values were no longer aligned. We shaved down the edges of the square peg, trying to force it into a round hole, but it just doesn’t fit – and we know it. Although we believed they would be in our lives forever, their season has come to an end. Everyone reminds you that you will heal from this, yet you wish you could believe that. Some might say that it takes half the length of the relationship to heal from the loss, while others say that after a month things will star...

The earth’s progression through the four seasons ensures maturation and renewal; the ice caps of winter melt into the streams of spring. Our relationships follow similar cycles. There are some that come into our lives for a lifetime while others only for a season. Surely, those that walk out of our lives are not always bad people – sometimes their part in our story is just over. We may have lost our spouse, partner or best friend simply because no matter how hard we tried to make it work, our values were no longer aligned. We shaved down the edges of the square peg, trying to force it into a round hole, but it just doesn’t fit – and we know it. Although we believed they would be in our lives forever, their season has come to an end. Everyone reminds you that you will heal from this, yet you wish you could believe that. Some might say that it takes half the length of the relationship to heal from the loss, while others say that after a month things will star...