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Everyone, no matter how bad you think the person is, deserves to be in a relationship. However, the reality of the matter is that not everyone is able to stay in one. Even with the several articles on  red flags on a first date , people still go into relationships which do not eventually pass the test of time. So, on one hand there are things to watch out for before dating a person and on the other hand there are factors that can help you make an informed decision before you eventually say “I do”. A broken relationship, it has been said, is better than a broken marriage. Sometimes we don’t choose whom we fall in love with but we choose whom we stay in love with. In other words, you don’t stay in love with someone by mistake, it’s a choice. To buttress this point, Jessica Bunevacz says 'relationships are not all about fun and good times, but all relationships are work'. In light of this, we would examine a few factors to consider in determin...

The world has become so complex today that to actually find a partner who doesn’t cheat is becoming increasingly tougher by the day. Truthfully, no one goes into a relationship with a guy/girl who would cheat on them. For example, 70% of the ladies I speak to, tell me that their greatest turn off in a relationship is a guy who cheats. Now do not get me wrong, I’m in no way implying that its only guys that cheat, ‘cos we all know that both guys and girls cheat alike. However, it’s really not easy to spot a cheater, as there’s no sure-fire way to know who would and would not cheat/. Relationships vary and people have several reasons why they cheat. Even with the fact that there are different ways to cheat as well as different reasons why people cheat; there are a several traits that habitual cheaters share in common. A few of these habits would be looked at below. *They are glued to Their Phone Being glued to their phone is a common habit of people who cheat. They always ensur...

Envy has no place here.         Never before have we had such immediate access into each other’s lives.  While the connections we strengthen through social media are meaningful, there is something to watch out for: envy.  It is said that “Jealousy comes from counting others’ blessings instead of our own.” Many of us feel genuine gratitude as we get to catch up with our friends and family’s pictures, growth and accomplishments on social media, and elsewhere.  But, too often we allow thoughts of comparison and hints of envy to creep in as well. Constant comparison is envy’s gateway.  Have you found yourself looking at someone’s anniversary pictures and wishing your relationship was as solid?  Have you and your wife struggled with infertility only to be saddened by constant pictures of beautiful, thriving babies?  Shakespeare wrote, “Oh beware...of jealousy!  It is t...

Never before have we had such immediate access into each other’s lives. While the connections we strengthen through social media are meaningful, there is something to watch out for: envy . It is said that “Jealousy comes from counting others’ blessings instead of our own.” Many of us feel genuine gratitude as we get to catch up with our friends and family’s pictures, growth and accomplishments on social media, and elsewhere.  But, too often we allow thoughts of comparison and hints of envy to creep in as well. Constant comparison is envy’s gateway. Have you found yourself looking at someone’s anniversary pictures and wishing your relationship was as solid? Have you and your wife struggled with infertility only to be saddened by constant pictures of beautiful, thriving babies? Shakespeare wrote, “Oh beware...of jealousy!  It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock.” Feelings of jealousy and envy must be healed; they ar...