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Everyone, no matter how bad you think the person is, deserves to be in a relationship. However, the reality of the matter is that not everyone is able to stay in one. Even with the several articles on  red flags on a first date , people still go into relationships which do not eventually pass the test of time. So, on one hand there are things to watch out for before dating a person and on the other hand there are factors that can help you make an informed decision before you eventually say “I do”. A broken relationship, it has been said, is better than a broken marriage. Sometimes we don’t choose whom we fall in love with but we choose whom we stay in love with. In other words, you don’t stay in love with someone by mistake, it’s a choice. To buttress this point, Jessica Bunevacz says 'relationships are not all about fun and good times, but all relationships are work'. In light of this, we would examine a few factors to consider in determin...

From infancy we're taught that we need to be accountable for our actions. If we hurt someone, we should apologize; if we take something that isn’t ours, we should give it back. As we mature, holding others accountable for their words and actions enables us to live with purpose and integrity. But what happens when those in our lives struggle with being held accountable for their actions? Here are 3 reasons why it is more than OK to hold others accountable: 1. Their word is their bond. A study on accountability found that when people know that they are being held accountable for their words they exhibit greater complexity of thought and actions. With clear limits in place they had to explain their motivations in greater depth and were more likely to be bound by their word. It’s crucial to be impeccable with our words and actions and to expect this from others. If their word is not their bond, your trust in them will waiver. If a spouse or friend doesn't follow through, w...

We’ve all been asked the question: What are your strengths? If it catches you off guard, then it's time to take personal inventory. Your strengths are the foundation of your success. It's important to know which qualities make you stand out. Not only is being aware of your strengths positive for an employer, it also works in your favor. The more hours per day adults believe they use their strengths, reports Gallup, the more likely they are to note having ample energy, feeling well-rested, being happy, smiling or laughing a lot, learning something interesting and being treated with respect. In short, utilizing our strenghts make just about everything better. If you're unsure how to start unlocking your strengths, follow these four tips. 1. What Makes You You? Think about your personal and professional experiences. How have you dealt with high-pressure situations? You’re bound to think of at least three strengths. Not only will you be able to articulate your strengths, yo...

We’ve all been asked the question: What are your strengths? If it catches you off guard, then it's time to take personal inventory. Your strengths are the foundation of your success. It's important to know which qualities make you stand out. Not only is being aware of your strengths positive for an employer, it also works in your favor. The more hours per day adults believe they use their strengths, reports Gallup, the more likely they are to note having ample energy, feeling well-rested, being happy, smiling or laughing a lot, learning something interesting and being treated with respect. In short, utilizing our strenghts make just about everything better. If you're unsure how to start unlocking your strengths, follow these four tips. 1. What Makes You You? Think about your personal and professional experiences. How have you dealt with high-pressure situations? You’re bound to think of at least three strengths. Not only will you be able to articulate your strengths, yo...

We should all “love in a way that makes the other person feel free.” Real love in our lives, whether from friends or family, should never bring us pain.  We should be loved in a way that makes us feel free--free and encouraged to grow into our best selves.  Do you feel free?  Do you feel uplifted and valued by those you love? Real love is life; it nurtures our spirit and wraps us in authentic comfort.  We are seen, acknowledged and considered. In fact, our psychological well-being is directly linked to feeling supported and nurtured in our relationships.  We have a hierarchy of needs that drive us towards self-actualization and personal fulfillment.  Real love from our family and friends adds to our feelings of belonging, security and esteem.  Love inspires a connectedness that uplifts and endures; its basis is mutual respect and admiration.  Closely examine the ways that you give and receive love in your own life.  It...