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Photo Credit: Blaj Gabriel "Men are polygamous in nature". It struck me like lightning when I first heard someone make this statement. I felt it was another case of people trying to rationalize a perceived wrongdoing. What was more surprising was to see some women speak in defence of this statement. In defence of the 'men are polygamous by nature' argument, a young lady said: 'The female reproductive cycle comes once a month but for a man, its everyday. For each sexual act, the woman's one egg is matched to a man's one hundred and twenty million (120,000,000) sperm cells. Given that all these cells are viable, it would take only thirty (30) men to impregnate all the women in the world." She opines that this points to one clear fact; men are by nature polygamous. She also says that monogamy and fidelity are unnatural situations promulgated by religious beliefs and societal pressure." However, if there's one lesson I've learnt, its this: s...

The thought of February 14 ignites the flame of love in the hearts of many. Its usually seen as a `Love and Romance Certified day'. Many guys have a tendency of looking for ways to break-up before this day in order to avoid spending  ton of cash while some other willing spenders desperately go in search of someone to spend the Valentine's day with. Although, no one can tell the aftermath hurried communion. Its Valentine Day 2018. By the way what really is this Valentine's Day that lovers would not give us breathing space. There are several stories suggesting the origin of Valentine's day. For example, one legend records that Valentine was a 3rd century Priest in Rome, who went ahead to marry young lovers, in defiance of the law which stated that single men made better soldiers than married men. Another legend suggests that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and tortured. According ...

​ The term Love cannot be boxed into one definition. Everyone choose what it means to them and how they express it. Away from the societal definition, I decided to undertake a scholarly view of love- how it comes and what it means- in order to see love from different perspectives. Join me on this journey as wr learn from two schools of thought; the philosophers and the psychologists. It may seem doubtful that philosophers have much to tell us about love (beyond their love of wisdom). Surely it is the poets who have the market cornered when it comes to deep reflection on the nature of love. John and Ken question the notion that love cannot be captured by the light of reason by turning their attention to the philosophy of love with philosopher-poet Troy Jollimore from CSU Chico. Troy is the author of Love’s Vision, as well as two collections of poems: At Lake Scugog and 2006's Tom Thomson in Purgatory, which won the National Book Critics Circle Award.  Many people hav...

​The fact  that someone is part of your history  doesn't  necessarily imply that they must be part of your destiny. Know when to draw the  curtain. Whether you realize it or not, people who refuse to grow with you simply can't go with you. So often we get so caught up in our emotions that we seem to think that just because someone has been by our side for years that we are entitled to take them with us to each proceeding level of our lives. At some point in your life you must realize that everyone can’t go with you to the next level and here’s why: Some People Are Seasonal Tyler Perry put it best in his hit movie Madea Goes To Jail: Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or wind blows in your life they are gone. You...

Although it may be hard to believe when we are in the midst of struggle, our deepest pain is the catalyst for our transformation. Yet, healing and growth are not possible if the door is still open to those people and experiences that chip away at your peace. Are you still allowing people and things that hurt you into your life? Truthfully, we cannot rebuke a devil that we continually grant access to our lives. You know that you don’t want to live in drama, for example, yet pick up the phone when that friend calls. He promised he would never put you down again, yet you’ve turned the other cheek so much your head is spinning.Protection of ourselves, and our core, is critical. Psychologists have found that slipping into patterns of self-sabotage happens all too easily.  In fact, whether it’s sticking to a health plan, quitting smoking, or removing ourselves from a toxic relationship, 80-90% of us will slide back to what feels familiar. Yet, researchers have found ...

1. HE FEELS THAT SHE’S TRYING TO FIX HIM. When a man starts to feel that he’s not enough, that his flaws are huge, or that he cannot be himself without judgment, he begins to find the exit door. Women tend to emasculate men by making them their projects. Albert Einstein said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” Men do not change, and no one truly needs to – they only need to discover who they truly are. A man can grow and mature with the help of a loving and supportive partner. 2. HE IS THREATENED BY THE WOMAN’S SUCCESS. In a study conducted by the University of Florida , men experience a huge blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they are not in direct competition. A woman’s success also impacts in a negative manner how the man views the future of the relationship. If the man has not been ab...