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Have you ever regretted decisions that have reshaped your life, whether for better or for worse? At a recent get-together with a couple of friends, we became so relaxed, some of us started discussing our dead marriages. Out of about 12 of us in the group, only three were currently in their ‘husbands’ homes, we’ve all fared pretty well after the divorce, but would any of us have wished she’s acted differently, knowing how mercurial the state of matrimony is now? “The end of my marriage came as a terrible shock to me,” confessed Abi, a pharmacist running a lucrative chemist. “But it shouldn’t have. Even though I was with my husband for over 15 years, the cracks had started shortly after the birth of our third son. “We never really stopped to address the reasons why we seldom turned on each other, why sex had been so mechanical it had lost its pleasure. Instead, we limped along for another eight years when the end finally came. And i...

When s/he is emotionally distant This disconnection is usually the prelude to a dying relationship. For a potential cheater, it’s easier to distance oneself emotionally from someone than to confront the real problem. Psychologists regard it as cowardly. • Absence of s*xual intimacy. When two people are still in love, s*x is normal and it happens without prompting. However, once infidelity enters the picture, physical disconnection sets in and absence of s*x is its expression. . This is especially true is no prior issues existed in this area. If nothing else, this behavior is indicative of some type of emotional or physical disconnect. Regardless, given the importance of physical connection in a relationship, a serious discussion is in order. • When your partner suddenly demands “privacy.” Of course, in any relationship, everyone needs the “me” time; but when your partner is always in need of time alone, something isn’t right and it may b...