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“Couples who argue a lot might love each other deeply”. At a first glance, this statement looks all shades of weird, right? I thought so too but like I’ll always say; understand before you criticize. It took me quite some time to really grasp the sense around this statement but experience came to the rescue. Now, truthfully, no one wants to be in a relationship where the sun sets and rises on their arguments. In a perfect world, relationships would really blissful all through, but I guess this is the point where I tell you: “Welcome to the imperfect world”. Relationships usually start on a very pleasant note. Everything all seems to be all bright and beautiful at the beginning, especially for relationships where the guy has had to go through months of toasting and waiting. Suddenly, a few weeks/months down the line, you start discovering things about yourselves that sort of puts you guys off, and the result; arguments, arguments and lots of arguments. So,...

We all know someone who seems to always be involved in a conflict. They seem to love to argue, are always itching for a fight, or purposely push all the right buttons to get a rise out of those around them. What makes some people so constant in their anger? The answer may be biological. When we are in the middle of conflict, our “fight or flight” instinct kicks in to help us respond to the perceived danger. This response is initiated by the release of the stress hormone cortisol by the adrenal gland. While cortisol is important to a healthy system, it can also produce a chemical “high” that can be addictive. Normally, cortisol lowers once danger is gone but if a person constantly exposes themselves to high stress situations such as those caused by anger and conflict, their system never completely processes the cortisol. This causes the biological system to remain polluted, so to speak, with the excess chemical. According to Debbie Mandel, stress management s...