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The Thin Line Between Complacency and Contentment: Balance

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There exists a very thin line of difference between a complacent person and a contented person. Some people erroneously fall into the temptation of thinking that being complacent equals to being grateful. They wrongly believe that complacency eliminates them from the train of 'go-getters'. Their ignorance lies in the thin line of difference between complacency and contentment. Being content means being happy while being complacent means refusing to work to improve. Becky Lee also gets it right when she says "Contentment means to feel peace with the current state you're in, regardless of the circumstances around you while Complacency means to grow numb to it, accept it and abandon ambition for change." Against that stream of thought, you must understand these two vital points: 1. Contented people can be grateful for where they are and what they have but believe that it can be better and they can have more. 2. Contented people do not necessarily covet what others

When Intelligence Is Not Enough

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Most people regard highly intelligent people as super humans who have it all figured out simply because their brains can help them in any life situation and they don’t have to struggle with the problems of the ordinary people. Yet, the reality is quite different, as no matter how intelligent someone may be, they are, at the end of the day, just human 1. FALLING IN LOVE IS HARD FOR YOU: Finally, your quest for love is slightly more demanding than that of average people. Since you are much more cautious, analytical and independent than the rest, you tend to get mistaken for cold and high maintenance. Additionally, you can lack spontaneity at times, which makes your love interest, lose interest. 2. YOUR JOB BORES YOU A LOT : The need for your brain to be constantly challenged with new, greater ideas and projects can turn your once exciting job into ordinary and boring as you exhaust all ways to be creative with it. This can turn into a day-to-day struggle to finish your tasks. Additiona

10 Sad but True Facts About Porn

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1. The porn industry is worth tens of billions of dollars, meaning it is bigger than professional football, basketball and baseball combined. 2. Only 17% of male performers use condoms in straight films — which means practically everyone you’re masturbating to has herpes. 3. People really like aggression in their porn — name calling, spanking, gagging. These things are currently illegal in porn in the UK. 4. Men and women love porn, but men go for images while women prefer erotic stories. But what if you read erotic stories while the porn is on??? 5. Oh also? Men are 543% more likely to look at porn than women. Just lol. 6. If you have an undergraduate degree you have probably looked at porn, which reminds me of the one time I saw a guy in the university computer lab downloading porn to his USB drive. Getting that load out is REALLY urgent. 7. Lots and lots people have some type of porn on their smartphones, which I guess can help make a boring commute into the office really stimulat

The Inner Circle: Confidants

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You would want in your life a few confidants. This is the smallest category of friends. In your whole life, they will not be many. If in your lifetime, you have a few people with whom you can be totally transparent, you are a rich person. A confidant requires no cover-up, you can be real. They are your inner circle. If you do not have an inner circle, you are like a hot water tank without a pressure valve and you're gonna explode because you have no place of release, so you will explode in the hands of a prostitute in a hotel room or some diabolical situation, spending your money for somebody to talk to because you fail to accessorize your life with the simplicity of friendship. When I say inner circle,I'm not just referring to those you hang out with regularly or go clubbing with, I'm referring to those people in your life that you can come totally clean with. Those that feed you and not just need you. Show me a man with no friends and I'll show you a man about to ex

Before You Date

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Some people are running from themselves. They've never examined themselves and as a result, they've never gotten to know themselves. This creates a 'dating-problem' because you find out that in giving yourself to somebody, not only do you not know who they are, you also do not know who you are but you stand there with your magnificient self promising to stick together 'in good times and in bad times'. The problem most people encouter is that they always think they know themselves, when in reality they do not. One reason why some people have found themselves in multiple relationships is because they do not know themselves- what they can do, what they cant do, what they can take, what they cant take- and they do not have an understanding of the kind of person they would want to be with. For some of them, they think good and exciting sex is enough to sustain a relationship. Newsflash baby, the sex will wear out one day and you would be left to deal with the person

Do You Know Leadership When You See It?

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Can you tell when leadership is happening in a team, in a workgroup, on a task force or across the organization? If you are not looking for three important outcomes - direction, alignment and commitment - then you’re missing something big. Direction is agreement on what the group is trying to achieve together. Alignment is effective coordination and integration of the different aspects of the work so that it fits together in service of the shared direction. Commitment is when people are making the success of the collective (not just their individual success) a personal priority. These three outcomes (DAC for short) make it possible for individuals to work together willingly and effectively to realize collective achievements. In fact, at CCL, we think the only way to know if leadership has happened is to look for the presence of these three outcomes. What does DAC look like? Evidence of direction includes: • There is a vision, a desired future, or a set of goals that everyone buys int

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This is really funny!!!

Quote of the day

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A good friend is hard to find!!! If and when you find one..keep that person

10 Tips To Keep In Mind When Taking Antibiotics

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Most of us take antibiotics when we have any infection. Not that they do not offer protection against bacterial infection, but they also cause a wide range of side-effects — right from bloating, diarrhoea and constipation to antibiotic resistance (in the long run). 1. Antibiotics –’ Anti’ means against and ‘biotic’ means living micro-organisms namely bacteria. So antibiotics should be taken only to deal with bacterial infection and not to treat viral or fungal diseases. 2. The generally recommended dosage of antibiotics is 2 – 3 times a day. But never self-medicate because anything excess can lead to digestive complications. 3. Most importantly, take the antibiotics as recommended by your doctor and do not discontinue it when you feel better after few day. 4. Usually, antibiotics have to be taken after meals. But in some case your doctor might recommend taking before or with meals. Whatever might be the case, avoid spicy food and alcohol when taking these  medications. 5. Antibiotics

The End of the Affair

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We’d met three years prior on a day trip organized by a mutual friend. On that day we left behind whatever was going on in our real lives and let ourselves be baptismically immersed in the innocent flirtations our attraction forced us to face. An hour or so into the ride home, I put my arm around her as she nestled into the sweet spot between my shoulder and chest and we drifted off to sleep. It’s amazing how intimate the simple act of falling asleep with someone can be; you wake up feeling closer and more connected to them, as if you’d spent the last few hours dancing together through decades in Inception-like dreams. But we woke up and the waking reality of where we were at that point in our lives paled in comparison to the magic we’d captured in that other world. We talked for a month or two after the trip but it just wasn’t the same. Three years later after reconnecting through the same mutual friend, we’re laying in bed, my arm is around her, and she’s back in her sweet spot. We

Tips For Single Women at 40

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It can be a tricky road navigating life as a single woman at 40 but by this age, its expectes that you've seen and experienced some things that have made you a bit wiser than you were in your younger years. Here are a few tips to help you: 1. Expect Nothing: When you lower your expectations, you begin to settle for what's available rather than what you deserve. Things such as tall, rich and handsome may not be entirely necessary. A wise woman once said "let life come to you". 2. The ONE is A Myth: This feeling that there's only one soul out there meant for us comes from an idea of scarcity. We tend to overthink, overanalyze and generally drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out if this is the 'ONE'. There is plenty of love available to human beings. Enjoy the ride and know that answers will come to you. 3. Too Grand to Play Small: By this time, you know what you have to offer in a relationship. This is not the time to hide or play small or God-help us

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What gives you happiness????

Funny Interpretations of Dreams...Enjoy!!!

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1. Nudity Well, everyone at some point or other had this dream. In the nudity dream, which is one of the most common dream symbols, we see ourselves naked and exposed to the outside world. It isn’t as naughty as it sounds. Actually, it symbolizes an urge for recognition. This urge can have both sexual and asexual meanings. 2. Sex Sex is the most talked about dream symbol. Having sex in a dream is just awesome and for ‘Forever alone’ guys, it is their only chance for some action. Well, sex in a dream can symbolize a literal desire for sex. But it can also mean a unification of our unconsciousness desires with conscious reality. It does sound a little complex but its not. Having sex in a dream primarily symbolizes a stage where you see a personal growth in yourself. 3. Falling One of most popular dream symbol, Falling symbolizes our anxieties and an urge to set free – maybe we are clinging too tightly to a situation and its time to let it go. It also means that we need to put more t

What To Do After A Cesarean Section

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Not many expectant mums love to hear the word C-section or are in favour of it. But at times a cesarean section becomes unavoidable, especially, if there is a health risk to the mother and baby. The same happened to me when my water bag broke before labour pain started (and even after inducing labour, pain stopped mid-way) I was wheeled into the OT for a C-section. I never wanted it but it was for the good of my baby that I accepted the doctor’s suggestion and got operated. However, I realised recovering from a C-section does take time and here are few rules you need to follow to speed up the process: 1. Once your catheter is removed, try to move around as much as you can (take help from the hospital staff if needed). Believe me; this will, in fact, speed up your recovery rather than lying in the hospital bed. However, you won’t be able to move much so do it slowly, you might feel dizzy and light-headed. Here is what you should expect after a C-section. 2. When you are allowed to use

Quote of the day

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The fact that you failed doesnt make you a failure...Believe!!!!!

Grace Makes Us Alright

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We all have a deep need to feel all right. And we can spend a lot of time and energy trying to do things that make us feel like we’re okay – okay with ourselves, with others and even God. But we don’t need to wear ourselves out trying to be right with God through our own effort. The truth is we can’t make our lives right on our own, but we can receive the righteousness of God by putting our faith in Christ. Romans 3:20 (NLT) says, For no one can ever be made right with God by doing what the law commands. The law simply shows us how sinful we are. That means the reason God established the law was to show us how much we need a Savior who can make us righteous before Him. We Can’t Earn Righteousness Self-righteousness is believing we are made right with God through our own works. For example, a person might think, “Well, if I read through my Bible every year, then God will be pleased with me.” But the truth is we don’t have to read our Bible to please God; we read it because it helps us

What Are You Saying With Your Mouth?

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Have you ever thought about God’s wonderful gift of speech? Proverbs 15:23 says A word spoken at the right moment—how good it is! God has given us the ability to bless, encourage, praise, sing and worship with our words. But too often our mouths—and a tiny instrument called the tongue—get us into trouble. If you have an “unbridled” tongue—and I struggled for years in this area—there’s no end to the havoc you can create in your own life and the lives of people around you. But the human tongue can be tamed by no man. It is a restless (undisciplined, irreconcilable) evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse men who were made in God’s likeness! (James 3:8-9). Our words can do severe damage to our relationships, our careers and the world around us. But here’s the good news: With the help of the Holy Spirit, they can also do great good. God can give us the wisdom we need to control our tongues and learn to speak life-giving words that reflect t

Making Effective Resolutions

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Resolving to make a few improvements in life? The new year is a perfect time to commit to making the changes that have been weighing heavy on your mind. However, most will abandon their resolutions.  Studies suggest only around 8% of those who make resolutions actually keep them. Why are resolution completion rates so low? Perhaps it’s the nature of the resolutions that are being made that are setting their success up for failure. In order to increase our likelihood of sticking to our intentions, here are some of the most popular resolutions and a few tips on how we might re-frame them for success. 1. Saving Money. Stress over saving money is the main cause of tension in relationships so it makes sense that saving money would rank as a popular resolution. In order to accomplish this, many will resolve to cut spending on things they see as unnecessary or choose cheaper options when spending, but that sort of deprivation can backfire because of the extra time and stress of looking for 

Have you Eaten A Kola Nut Today?

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Kola nut (Cola Acuminate), also known as ‘cola nut’ or ‘bitter cola’, is the seed of the brown-colored chestnut-like fruit of the cola nut plant. Kola nut, also termed as cola acuminate, is really a caffeine-rich nut which is indigenous to exotic Africa. In these regions, the nut is recognized as symbolic of hospitality as well as goodness. Even though almost tasteless on their own, kola nuts are frequently chewed before meals to assist encourage digestion and also to assist combat possible harmful effects from impure drinking water. Kola nut offers a huge range of benefits to human health. Here are some health benefits of kola nut. Helps in Weight Loss: If you are dying to lose weight by removing extra kilos, kola nut can be very much helpful to you. It can eliminate undesired fat and aid you in losing body weight without inducing negative effects. It increases metabolic rate to a great extent, which helps in better digestion with less storage of foods as fat cells. It acts as a natur

Things You Need To Know About Sex During Menstration Period

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No matter how much we hammer on it that sex during period is not hygiene so many people still engage in it so why not lecture them on what to know about sex during period and that is what this article is about and not promoting sex during period. Having sex during that time of the month is a personal choice, and there is no reason you cannot enjoy intimacy during that period. However, you always need to take certain precautions even during her menstrual cycle. These tips will help make sex during periods enjoyable and less messy, it will help you be more comfortable with her in bed during her periods. •Place a towel or cloth on the bed: You cannot deny that sex during menstruation is a little too messy. And your white sheets can take a beating if you do not use anything to catch the mess. So it is a good idea to place a dark towel or a bedsheet under her pelvis before you get going. •Clean yourself up after sex: Also, be prepared with a warm wash cloth or wet wipes to clean up right af

Criticism- One Mark of A True Friend

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We have to learn that all criticism is not bad. Criticism is an observation or detailed examination and review. As a matter of fact, you need criticism because it spurs you to greatness. The greatest men in the world wouldnt have gotten to where they are without criticism. Criticism makes you better. Living in a world that has no criticism is dangerous. We all need somebody who is bold enough to criticize you and tell you 'I love you but that aint good for you'. The mark of a dangerous and fake friend is somebody who always says what you want to hear. A good friend would always have the effrontery to tell you the truth, however bitter it may be.  Most people don't really want a friend but they want a cheerleader Against this backdrop, we must learn to accept and live with criticism as it can help us achieve things we ordinarily wouldnt have achieved without positive criticism. As we become more mature we would learn to be able to accept criticism, draw from it what needs

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Some guys can say anything just to get a babe!!!!! Lol

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God is my everything!!!

Food For Thought Series-I

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■Complacency is a fear of high achievers, and it should be a fear for everyone. When we are no longer motivated, it’s over. ■Successful companies take ideas and form strategy, take strategy and form structure, and take structure and form action plans. ■Good or bad, the culture of a company is established and maintained by its leadership and manifests itself through its people. ●This is a good day to ask, “Where am I going, why am I going there, when will I get there, and what can I expect when I arrive? ●To tackle a huge undertaking, break it down into smaller segments; reaching each mini- milestone helps to achieve the major goal. ●Care and credibility are critical to all meaningful relationships, and meaningful relationships are key to life and business success. Source: Bill Boyajian

Food For Thought Series-II

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■Your commitments shape your direction in life and in business. They define what you’re dedicated to and what you really care about. ■You can’t be an effective leader if you’re driven by resentment, even if it’s justified. To be free to lead, you have to let things go. ■Small companies don’t need an employee handbook. Try these basics: work hard, do right, serve customers, and use good judgment. ●Most people want to do well, but need attention and good communication in order to excel. If you lead, give them what they need. ●The best test of who you are is evidenced when no one is looking. How you handle adversity is a true measure of character. ●Common sense is not so common. Use yours to make good choices. If something is not right, just don’t do it. It’s pretty simple. Source: Bill Boyajian

Keep it Moving

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We’ve all had ups and downs in our lives. Too often, a major obstacle or failure becomes a defining moment. They say that you learn more from your failures than your successes. That’s only if you don’t let a major downer define your life and limit your dreams and aspirations. Instead, learn to overcome that one crucial mistake, that failed relationship or that devastating disappointment by using it as motivation to take your life or your business to the next level. It isn’t easy to put the past in the past, but it is vital in order to rebuild self-confidence, restore relationships, or redefine your goals for the future. No one is perfect. Everyone has failed. But the difference between failure and success is a very fine line, often dictated by how you perceive it, and how you perceive yourself. Failure can be success if we learn from it. So take some time today to reflect on that defining moment in your life and use it for good. Source: Bill Boyajian

How To Have An Attractive Personality

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You could be the most polished or sophisticated person on the planet, however, if people don’t like you, you’ll have fewer and fewer opportunities to interact with them. Some individuals have the kind of personality that brightens up a room while others improve the environment by their departure. Personality is the visible aspect of your character as it impresses others. Without a pleasing personality, achieving your personal and professional goals will be an uphill battle. This is not about changing who you are or becoming a people pleaser. It is about coming to grips with the fact that whatever you desire in life will be achieved through other people. Consequently, you must be mindful of behaviors and character traits that attract people and those that repel them. As you read the following tips for a winning personality, consider areas where you need to shore up your interactions with others. • Smile. Keep it genuine; don’t do it just to show off your new cosmetic veneers or caps

Pushing Past The Pain of Rejection

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Good morning! Being favored does not mean that you will not be rejected. Rejection is a significant source of pain and suffering for this world. In fact, rejection created the need for the gospel. Sin entered the world because two people rejected God and his command. It is a costly experience that causes emotional pain that can lead to anger or self-esteem issues. Even though you have experienced rejection, it does not determine your future. Don't let anger or rage harbor in your heart. (Psalms 4:4) Release yourself from the pain of rejection so that you can soar into the place where God is leading you. Recall that Joseph was rejected by the ones that should have embraced him. Even Jesus was rejected by his family members. (John 7:5) Don't take rejection personally. The rejection honestly says nothing about you as a person. Getting rejected is a part of life and it is not a personal attack. It's all is part of the process when you are blessed and highly favored! Here ar

Tales of a Lagos Girl (II)- The Virginity Hater

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This is interesting..lol..Read what Twitter user, Emo girl shared.. 'Got a text from an ex after 4 years.. you men are confusing.lol how my relationship with him ended was the most confused moment of my life.This guy chased me for months. I was really into him but my hard girl reputation couldn’t be tempered with back then.I finally fell and we started dating. I used to have this really wild, bad girl appearance then but deep down inside.. it was the opposite. “We were dating.. kissing and stuff never really had time or opportunity for the secks because my parents didn’t give me space to shine. Till the day i decided to sleep over at his place and get diqed, whether my parents kill me or not the next day, man must die one day. I was excited about that night..I really liked that guy, i didn’t even think about the trouble i’ll be in i just wanted to die by that p*nis. He was excited too and we started making out and touching each other’s prr….. You know what i mean. It was now tim

Tales of a Lagos Girl (I)- Runaway Boyfriend

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“ I live in Gusau and work with Fidelity bank. I have no time for myself or anything else except for my job. I’ve lost countless boyfriends due to the nature of my job, it does not give me the space to be with my man romantically. After endless break ups I moved to the fast paced-culture of online dating. I met this fascinating, humble and intriguing man online. He was like heaven on earth. A prime definition of decency. We moved from Facebook chat to Whatsapp and then calling on phone. He’s always on phone with me. Little did I know that he had other foul plans. I must give it to him “his cards were neatly played out” We fast became lovers, he spoke with my significant others, proposed to me on phone. Told him phone proposal won’t work with me. He kept saying that his international Web business line won’t allow him to be with me at the moment. Few days later he told me that he was traveling out of the country for business transactions. Which in his own terms was done. He said he wa

You Too Can Make It Through The Storm

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Many people have gifts and talents and are called to do great things for God. Yet He hasn’t said, “Go,” because they’re still learning how to be stable, dependable, reliable, not easily shaken, and in control of their emotions. As Christians, we need to live the life that we claim to represent so that our gifts and talents can be released―not just for our own sake, but for the good of those around us. I am so glad that I’m married to a stable man. Of all the things Dave has brought to my life, I am so grateful to him for teaching me the value of stability. You see, in the early days of our marriage, he never knew one day to the next what I was going to be like, and neither did I. My circumstances dictated my mood―and it was a miserable way to live. Stop Making Excuses I could get up each morning thinking I was going to have a great day and then something would set me off. Then by 9 a.m., the rest of my day was totally ruined! But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can control ourse

Surviving with God's Strength- Testimony

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Before I first listened to Joyce’s teaching on the fruit of the Spirit, I confess I didn’t really understand how the fruit worked. I assumed it was all about will power. If I didn’t have peace or patience, it must be because I wasn’t trying hard enough. It never occurred to me to ask for God’s help. It might have had to do with how I was raised. Though I grew up in a Christian home, my mother was the poster child for the self-made woman – the oldest of 10 who grew up in a West Virginia coal-mining town during the Great Depression. She escaped at 18, married a mean man, went to work, divorced, remarried and eventually became one of the first female Chamber of Commerce executives in the country. She was a dynamo who loved to say, “I’m a survivor.” That was her battle cry and badge of honor. Mere Survival Falls Short It made perfect sense that I would follow her template. Clawing my solitary way up the mountain of life’s challenges, marching under my own steam through exhaustion and d